Just a reminder that the LGBT community isn’t some magical place where everyone is accepted.
Okay there’s nothing wrong with some of these. That guy says he’s genuinely supportive. He doesn’t care if people are bi, he just doesn’t want to have a relationship with a certain type of person. I don’t see the problem.
Because there’s no reason not to date someone because they’re bisexual that isn’t biphobic. (Note I said BECAUSE THEY’RE BISEXUAL)
I don’t know why this is so confusing to people.
Because people are morons Matt. Haven’t you figured this out yet?
not wanting to date someone for any reason is okay. not being attracted to some people is okay.
for example, to date someone, you have to find them attractive. christian people just aren’t attractive to me in any way, and it’s not dictated by logic. as soon as someone says that they’re really into christianity, all my attraction goes away and i can’t help it. am i christianphobic for that?
not wanting to date someone of a particular gender or race or age or height or weight or anything, it is ok. you don’t owe anyone dating. you don’t owe anyone sex.
That’s not what anyone is saying. This is pointing out that ~some~ gay men won’t date bisexual guys simply because they’re bisexual. That’s nothing besides discrimination against bisexual people. It’s biphobia.
"biphobia is aversion toward bisexuality and bisexual people as a social group or as individuals". not wanting to date someone because they’re anything (because of their beliefs or what they look like or their family history or anything really) isn’t discrimination and it’s not a sign of aversion imo.
not wanting to date fat people isn’t “fatphobic”. not wanting to date republicans/liberals isn’t a sign of you hating them and doesn’t mean that you’d discriminate against them (for example among job applicants).
i don’t think that anybody owes anyone dating, so not wanting to date someone is in no way discriminatory, in my opinion.
What does being bisexual change about the person them self? Nothing.
The other things you said all play in to someone’s physical or mental attractiveness to someone, but being bisexual isn’t a mental or physical characteristic. It’s just something you are. There is no reasonable excuse to say “I won’t date someone who is bi because they’re bisexual”, the fact that a man who you previously were attracted to when you thought he was gay turns out to be bi and then turns you off? If that’s not bigotry what is?
I really don’t think this is bigotry at all. I dated cross dressers and bisexual men before. (I found the cross dressing rather… Stimulating) but the fact of the matter is I won’t date another bisexual male. I just don’t want to. They thought identifying as bisexual meant that while we were in a monogamous relationship meant they could go around fooling around with other guys. I don’t want to NOT know who my SO is sleeping with.
Not all bisexuals are like that. I identify as bisexual or whatever. I’m sexually and romantically attracted to both genders and some In between. But I don’t think that gives me the go ahead to mess around with other people while I’ve got a boyfriend.
It’s just personal preference at this point. I wouldn’t date a gay man? Because they’re not attracted to me. So does that make me homophobic? I feel like your logic is failing here and I can’t tell if you’re serious or just arguing to argue.
I do think that some of those responses are pretty ignorant so far as what being bisexual means. And the OP never states if the guy is bisexual and biromantic, bisexual and aromantic, or bisexual with a preference for one gender over the other. I know for a fact that being bisexual doesn’t mean you’re attracted to more people than the average person or all people ever. A lot of people are just insecure and wouldn’t want to be made fun of for “turning their boyfriend straight/gay”.
In all I don’t see there being a problem with not wanting to date a bisexual man.
I don’t want to date Christians, radfeminists, or conspiracy theorists or anarchists…. I don’t find most nonwhite people attractive. Am I racist and bigoted because of that?
So you’re stereotyping all bisexual men based on your experiences with a few of them? There’s a word for that, it’s called bigotry.
I’m not saying you have to date bisexual people if you don’t want to, but to equate a few of them cheating to all of them cheating is really fucking similar to feminists who claim that since ~some~ men rape that all men rape. It’s just bullshit.